I have been paying attention to my Malay blog that I begin to dry out on ideas when it comes to this petblog. Love you so much! Muah! Muah! Muah! Awww… So in order to get these ideas coming again, I will write on the topic that people are so familiar with but usually have very little clue about. Including myself. SO how am I going to write about a topic that I have very little ‘so-called-experience’ of? Easy, from my observation, what I have read, what I have gained from sembang-sembang sessions, from songs, movies, real life events and maybe, MAYBE from what I have experienced.
Love. Uttering the word alone induces a lot of mixed feelings. Some might feel soothed, some might feel pain, some might feel some kind of wonderful, some might feel as if they are on the verge of puking, some might feel what ever feelings which were unknown to them before.. Powerful word indeed.
Needless to say, this gift, this phenomenon, whatever you want to call it inspired the human life since God knows when. More than enough sentences, songs, poems, haikus, letters, have been written which described what love could do to us, what we could do with love, what love could inspire us to do.
Michael Buble – I’m your man
If you want a lover, I’ll do anything you ask me too…
Nazareth – Love Hurts
Love hurts, love scars, love wounds and mars. Any heart, not strong or tough enough…To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain, love is like a cloud, holds a lot of rain.
Ishq Bina (Taal Movie)
What is sweeter than sweet? Love. What is bitter than bitter? Love.
Enough, I can give you examples of beautiful sentences carved out of this …thing for the whole day and still be left with millions more maybe billions.
So what are we going to do? Lets get to know love. What is love? Let me narrow down the context of this love to the romantic kind of love. Everybody wants to fall in love. Don’t you want somebody to love? You are lying if your answer is negative. I have a lot of friends who achieved a lot of things in their life and still seeking for that thing you called love. They want it.I’ve spoken to people in a heart-to-heart session and despite all of their egos, they broke down admitting that they wanted love.
I believe it’s one of the easiest thing to understand and yet the most complex mystery in the world.
You love somebody. You care about somebody. You want to know whatever there is to know about somebody. You want to be treasured. You forgot about their negative sides, you forgot about your positions, and in some communities, you forgot about your hierarchy.
Have you ever heard of the phrase “The Stockholm Syndrome”? In simpler terms it means a kidnapped person who fell in love with his/her kidnapper. It started out with sympathy and eventually turned into affection. Is affection love? I am just throwing this out there so we can all think together. My idea of love might be different than yours.
Have you read a report on a study that a group of researchers carried out on a group of male who frequent prostitutes? In a nutshell, according to the report, these men felt their emotional need was not fulfilled. They felt empty. Merely physical enjoyment and nothing more.
When you say “I love you”, what does it mean? These questions that I typed have no definite answers. The answers lie with you. You decide how you want to see love. I am not gonna tell you what is love. I have no rights to do so. What I can do is I can suggest to you what is love from my eyes. I prefer the positive sides. The existence of the negatives should serve as a reminder and thus we shall be more aware and cautious with each step. Reminder you say. What sort of reminder? That love used to invoke wars between countries, love could make you forget where you stand, love could make you break bonds between parents and their child, love could jeopardize your strongest friendship, love could make you neglect your responsibilities, love could make you forget your ambitions, love could alter your principles and most importantly love could make you forget the Bestow-er of love Himself, the God Almighty.
The positives? Look back at the negatives, turn them around. 🙂 . Nice aren’t they?
We shall continue this discussion in the next entry…in the meantime, take a look at these books: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, and, Smart Women Foolish Choices. Interesting read.
Footnote: I know I sound weird in this entry, but meh, just for the sake of the mood needed.
p/s: Dira, wa tengah cuba nak fulfill my promise to come up with a cintan cintun entry kehkehkeh 😛 .